Wednesday, April 27, 2016

i love rejection

Someday in the near future, (ok maybe in 15 years), i am going to write a book, and the title will be "i love rejection."  Only because I actually hate rejection right now, i am going to work on loving it.
 
But in the spirit of figuring this out, here is why i hate rejection: 
 
Rejection is messy because it makes me cry.
Rejection is climatic because you are in anticipation for usually a lengthy amount of time for the "yes" answer and then you get a "no, sorry about your bad luck." 
Rejection gives me that yucky feeling inside that I wasn't good enough.
Rejection makes you think the "rejecter" just doesn't like you and I just want people to like me.
Rejection makes me angry.
Rejection makes me grumpy.
Rejection just plain sucks.
 
So with that I have some rejections I am feeling this week, and I need to get them off my chest.
 
First up, is HSN which was so kind to even consider my cutting boards for their on air show but ultimately declined.  This rejection was sad to hear on a early Monday morning, but a little easier to handle because I knew it was a long shot.  I've found that my products being made in the US cannot compete with the pricing of the products made elsewhere and this makes for hard negotiations. Ultimately cutting boards in general do not sell well on air and because HSN has tried to sell other brands of boards on air and they didn't sell well...........  But how can you compare my boards with those other boards?  Its like trying to convince that boyfriend that broke up with you cause he just doesn't like you to take you back.  It just doesn't work.
 
Second up, measuring jobs.  I measured a job this week pretty far away, 60 miles to be exact and thought I had a good chance at getting the job.  Ultimately they said they were going to wait and not go ahead and of course I feel rejected.  Did I not give enough information? Was my presentation bad?  Did my cabinets cost to much?  Did i come off as unknowledgeable? What is it??  Ultimately i know the rules, you can send an email or make a phone call and ask what could I have done better to get the job, but i think I am afraid of the answer...........

So........this is me loving rejection.
i am going to let it soak in,
revel in it,
swim in it until my fingers get all pruney,
 bask in the sunlight of rejection,
oh how i love rejection,
ultimately it will bring me knowledge of how i can do better,
how i can try to negotiate better,
how i can learn to take criticism with ease,
it will make me tough,
it will make me inspirational,
it will make me feel inspired,
i'm feeling better already......

i am going to use this new found rejection knowledge while waiting to hear back on another shenanigan that i have coming up........
hopefully the answer will be a yes......
because i hate rejection.
your custom cabinet girl
 
  

Thursday, February 18, 2016

i couldn't make this up if i tried.......

So while I was away in Vegas at the Market Show not meeting the buyers that I was told would be there I got an email from an Adam Housley.  I was already in a great mood when I got his email as you can tell.  He went to my website and found me because I am local and asked if I wouldn't mind having a table with my boards and wine items at his Winery for Wine & Chocolate Weekend Feb. 13th & 14th. 

(keep in mind I didn't look up anything about the winery yet)......

I'm going to be very honest, I didn't want to go.  I have had terrible sales at all the last 3 shows I've tried and I was in the middle of one when I was asked to go to Wine & Chocolate and I thought, I can't take much more of this spending money and not making any.  So I said, "I'd think about it." 

Well, Adam called the office when I got back. I asked him how much it would cost for me to have my booth and he said, "nothing, I just want you to be there with your great items and sell them."  Still, I told Adam "I would think about it."  You know, I would be spending time away from Mr. Know-it-All and the boys and there might be some sports game on TV that I would have to miss. Darn.  So on a whim when Adam emailed me again I just typed out "I'm in" and hit send.  This was a week before the event and I still wasn't thinking about it much, but by the Wednesday before I started looking up the winery online. 

Its called Housley's Century Oak Winery and is literally a mile away from my house.  I was trying to find out a little about Adam and how he was connected to the winery.  I couldn't find anything about him except an "Adam Housley" that was a senior correspondent for Fox News kept coming up.  Well I thought, that's not who I was talking to, so I just kept looking and I could not find anything else. 

By Friday night I had talked to Adam on the phone that day to verify when I needed to be at the winery and what I was bringing and so forth, and I decided to get out the big guns, my computer and started investigating the winery again.........and I was so wrong!! 
I had been talking to "The Adam Housley" the senior correspondent at FOX NEWS!! 
I told you, I couldn't make this stuff up!

So of course I am in bed researching on my computer and I screamed at Mr. Know-it-All!! 
DO YOU REALIZE WHO THIS IS!!
Mr. Know-it-All just played it cool and told me to calm down, and act natural the next day.....well I totally didn't.  Adam's a celebrity!!  HELLO!!!!!!!!

So to tell you a few things about Housley's Century Oak Winery:
A) They have amazing wine, its really good!
B) They are located 22211 N. Lower Sacramento Road Acampo, Ca 95220 their website is www.centuryoakwinery.com
C) They are all a hard working family and the most down to earth nicest people you will meet.
D) And they thought my products were great!

Also, to top things off I met Adam's brother Arik who owns his own grocery store called Ranch Markets in Napa Valley.  He wants to try to carry my cutting boards in his store and feels they would sell very well. 

All I can say is God was trying to give me a gift of being able to present my product locally, in a winery, down the street from my house, get me some new business connections, and I kept hesitating and thinking about it...........
I am so glad I said "Yes!" 

So just in case you think I am making this up, here is the proof.  I have a picture with Arik Housley, me, and Adam Housley in the winery just after the Wine & Chocolate ended on Sunday.
Mr. Know-it-All took the photo, and I didn't get to fix my makeup or hair, whatever....
 
I'm looking forward to sharing what happens next,
 
your custom cabinet girl



 

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

so.......youre sayin' i have a chance..........

Do you remember the movie Dumb & Dumber when Lloyd asks Mary if he has a chance to be with her?  Mary says, "your chances are one in a million" and then Lloyd replies, "so you're sayin' I have a chance!"
I love that line. It just confirms that you can look at anything with your glass half full even when your glass only has a drop left in it because you still have a chance.  It might be a minute chance but its still a chance.  You must still believe.  I really do believe in second chances and I also believe in asking for the impossible because you never know what the answer could be...... until you ask.
 
Today I found out that "The Chew" received the cutting boards I sent and they love them and will be using them.  My dad suggested that I decide to be bold and ask if I could come on their show to talk about the boards and how fun they are to make and use while working in the kitchen.  I think its a long shot, my glass has a drop left in it, and I'm really reaching, but you know what?  That wonderful girl that works for "The Chew" said she would do what she can!  She said to keep doing what I'm doing because its awesome!  
I am grateful for the encouragement from New York City to little Lodi, California and I look forward to following up! 
 
your custom cabinet girl

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

the chew

Well I am up to more shenanigans, and this time might have worked........
Strategically, I have been trying to find professionals that I can connect with on LinkedIn that I might be able to do work for or with.  I found a really good one just before New Years! 
 
This wonderful person, has a very important role at "the chew" on ABC and I thought I would ask if she wanted to connect............and she did!!  And then I was bold enough to ask a favor, (and I say Bold because this is Bold to me),  to ask if I could give her some cutting boards for the cohosts to try out.  She answered my email! Yes she did people!  She answered it and her answer was, "yes, please send me your boards and the cohosts will have access to them and be able to try them out and possibly.......maybe possibly, they could use them on the show!
 
I thought I would make up 4 boards special for the show and then engrave them with "the chew" logo and hopefully they will be used and noticed.  Here I am with them..........
And here they are on the table......
 
I am so thankful for the opportunity for the cohosts to
use our boards and see how they like them, also, they might want to talk to me about my shenanigans that I pull on a regular basis.........hint hint......
 
your custom cabinet girl